Replace experimental_infallible_new with compile-time flag

The runtime option aborted on every OOM, breaking new(std::nothrow)
semantics. Replace with configure-time --enable-cxx-infallible-new
(default off): when on, throwing new aborts (size logged) and
nothrow returns null; when off, standard new_handler + bad_alloc /
null behavior is preserved. Under LTO the on-path lets the compiler
prove operator new is no-throw.

test/integration/cpp/infallible_new.sh

@@ -0,0 +1,8 @@
+#!/bin/sh
+
+XMALLOC_STR=""
+if [ "x${enable_xmalloc}" = "x1" ] ; then
+  XMALLOC_STR="xmalloc:false"
+fi
+
+export MALLOC_CONF="${XMALLOC_STR}"